I’m usually not a fan of Jay Z’s music; however, I was intrigued when the articles about 4:44 flooded my timeline. I had to check it out. What I found was the most honest, emotional, vulnerable Hip Hop track I’ve heard in a very long time. The lyrics reminded me of all of the partners who found themselves drowning in…
When an affair is discovered, a relationship is changed forever. Two people are grieving different things at different times and the world seems to go into a tailspin. Partners who have the affair have their own list of challenges and I will reserve those challenges for another post. This post is about how the very identity…
An affair does not automatically mean that a marriage or relationship is over. Many times people who love their spouses find themselves in situations they never thought they would be in. A friendly co-worker, a Facebook friend, an ex-lover, or a complete stranger can be the temptation that threatens to destroy your marriage. Many partners who have cheated are…
Couples attempting to restore their relationships in the wake of an affair experience a swarm of emotions. One minute, they are enemies; the next, they are starving for intimacy and connection. The relationship has changed, and no one seems to know how to get through it. The whole world seems different, and yet, it just keeps going…
Doesn’t all couples’ therapy cover infidelity (affair) recovery? The short answer is… no. Being in relationship counseling does not automatically mean infidelity recovery. Very often, couples come to counseling to improve their relationship, but do not disclose previous betrayals. They may come asking for assistance with communication or managing conflict. Many couples believe that they have “gotten over”…
One of the hardest things for couples who are trying to recover from infidelity to understand is the need for conflict in order to heal. Many couples take the constant conflict as a sign that they are not doing well or have “unhealthy” patterns. This could be the case, but the presence of conflict does not signal…